"Faceboo-kiando" -- What to do When Mom Friend Requests You

Sure, Facebook allows mom to connect with family across the border, but what do you do when she want be your Facebook friend?

 “Mija, I want a Facebook.” What do you do when your mother wants to open a facebook account? How do you cope with her knowing more about facebook than you do?

My mother asked me to open a facebook account about a year ago. It was the biggest mistake I have ever made. Ever since my mom has had her facebook account, she has been “faceboo-kiando” or “facebooking” it all day, every day. It started with me teaching her the basics; uploading photos, tagging pictures, sending a message, and searching people to request. After I taught her the basics I left her, and her page, alone. I thought my mom would find it a bit difficult and/or boring being on facebook, after all I did. Boy was I wrong.

Within a month my mom had found all my aunts and uncles facebook pages. My whole family live in Tijuana; aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents, all in Tijuana and all got a facebook! Yes, I got to admit that facebook is a great resource for communicating with family that may be around the globe, and this social media has actually helped my mom a lot with keeping in touch with family she hasn't been around in years. Thanks to my aunts having a facebook my mom can see my grandmas pictures more often and sometimes my grandma has one of my cousins write us a message which means a lot to all of us here. I know it means a whole lot for my mom to be able to keep track of her sisters and brothers. Even though she can’t physically be there, its almost like she is at everyone’s parties and homes. She will anxiously wait for my aunt to put up my grandma's birthday pictures or my our cousin’s wedding pictures. When she looks through all the pictures and reads the comments its truly like she is there. In return my mom does the same.

My mom can upload a whole album of photos every week of what we do over here in San Jose. She will then let my aunts know, “ya puse new picture en el facebook para que me hagan tag.” My mom can do so much on facebook now, she can search people for hours, comment everyone of her friends favorite pictures, and chat with three of my aunties and four cousins at the same time.

I stared realizing my mom got on facebook as soon as she got off work. I’d come home from school and she would already be sitting down at the computer “haciendole tag” (tagging) one of my aunt's photos. One day I got home from school and my mom asked me if I had been on my facebook lately, I actually had not been online for about a month or so. I logged on, I saw that I had a friend request and about four notifications. Surprise. My mom had requested me about a month ago and she had commented on two of my pictures and left me comments on my wall asking, “Why haven’t you added me? “Why don’t you comment back?” What?! This cannot be. I denied her request. It turned out to be no use because she requested me three more times until I finally added her.

She is constantly commenting on my photos which makes no sense because most of these photos I take in our home; she would comment on pictures of me sitting on our couch or even pictures of me and her. And ofcourse, she all about leaving chain messages on my wall.

I tried to tell her nicely that she has a facebook problem. All she says is, “Me gusta chat with your tia” (I like to chat with your aunt). But really, I know its more then that. My mom knows everyone’s business through facebook. If someone is with so and so, she knows. If someone got a new pair of shoes, she knows, and if someone broke up with so and so, she definitetly knows.“Oh-my-gat! Did you see la picture que subio esa?!” she will scream to be while scrolling down on the computer.

I try to avoid her on facebook and forget the fact that she has one. I even had to censor the information I put up on my own page due to her being so nosy. If I posted something like, “ugh, I’m tired don’t want to go to school”, by the time she was in her lunch break she would call and check if I went to school. I try to laugh it off most of the time, but man. 

My mom has a smart phone now and can be on facebook during her break. She is also on facebook while she waits in the car and even when we are out for groceries. My breaking point was when I saw that my best friend was a “common friend” with my mom! I gave up. I decided to no longer get involved with my mom’s facebook life.  I did though warn some of my close friends to be careful what pictures they put up on their page, because my momma was most likely going to comment.

With time, I got used to seeing my mom’s picture on my wall and her comments on my friend’s photos. I guess it’s ok for moms to stay updated on technology. “Viste que le hice like en tu picture?” (Did you see I Liked you picture)?

Yes, I did momma. 

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ESTOY MUYY ORGULLOSA DE MI HIJA MELISSA VARGAS POR LAS COSAS QUE ASE BUENAS Y ESCRIVE PARA ESTA REVISTA LOCAL DE SAN JOSE EL NOMBRE ES DE- BUG. Y ESTO SOLO ES UNA PROBADITA DELO QUE ELLA PUEDE ASER. MUCHAS FELICIDADES MI AMOR.

YO TAMBIEN ESTOY MUY ORGULLOSA DE TI MELI, PORQUE ME DOY CUENTA DE LO QUE HAS CRECIDO Y NO SOLO EN LO FISICO BUENO!!! JAJA SI NO EN EL PENSAR MAS MADURA MAS MUJER, PERO EL FACEBOK ES LA REALIDA DE HOY Y MUCHAS VECES NOS ES MAS FACIL COMUNICARNOS DE ESTA MANERA QUE PERSONALMENTE TRISTEMENTE PARA MI GUSTO, PERO COMO TU DICES ESTO ACORTA DISTANCIAS Y ES GRANDIOSO FELICIDADES NUEVAMENTE I LOVE YOU

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